Other dating experts have pointed to such stereotypes and lack of multiracial representation in the media as part of the likely reason that plenty of online daters have had discouraging experiences based on their race. Why might our dating preferences feel racist to others? "It made me feel like I wasn't enough, who I am wasn't what he expected, and that he wanted me to be somebody else based on my race." "He was like, 'Oh, so we have to bring the 'hood out of you, bring the ghetto out of you!' " Curtis recounts. Curtis describes meeting another white man on Tinder, who brought the weight of damaging racial stereotypes to their date.